When marrying your better half, you hope to remain so until death separates you. However, things do not turn out as expected for many, and they end up divorcing. For some, the stress of dissolving a marriage can take a significant toll on them. As a result, emotions run high, and the marriage dissolution proceedings get marred with angry scenes.
No matter how hard a divorce can be on you, it is best to remain civil, especially for the sake of your children. Being civil does not mean you are not emotional; rather, it means you are polite and courteous despite the anger you might have. In addition to maintaining a positive image, remaining civil during marriage dissolution has its added advantages.
Here are tips on how to stay civil during your marriage annulment proceedings.
Know What Led to the Demise of your Marriage
Shifting blame and getting even is common when couples are going through disunion. Instead of blaming your spouse for the death of your marriage, take the high road and get to know where things when wrong. Doing so requires a high level of maturity and self-knowledge.
Understanding where things went wrong will help you avoid pointing fingers and let you end things with your ex peacefully.
Accept Responsibility for Your Actions
After a mature talk with your spouse, all reasons for the demise of your marriage might point at you. This does not mean you are a bad husband or wife.
However, to keep the judicial separation peaceful and civil, it is best to take responsibility for your actions. Use the time to think of how you could have been a loving spouse and learn the foundations of sustaining a fulfilling marriage.
Keep Your Cool
As earlier said, emotions often run high during marriage termination, especially if kids and considerable assets are involved. Keeping your cool and not letting emotions win is essential. Keeping your cool means not communicating with anger, avoiding physical, verbal attacks, and any illegal activities such as stalking, property destruction and making threats.
Such actions can have a negative effect on the outcome of the proceedings. If you have children, you should think of them and avoid any drama that might affect them.
Focus on Your Well-being
No matter how hard you try to act civilly, emotions of anger, resentment, sadness, guilt, and embarrassment might bottle up inside you. Allowing emotions to bottle up can lead to psychological problems. That is why it is better to talk to some you trust to help you through and beyond the trying times.
You can also spend some time with your other family members and friends and enjoy a shared experience with them. Doing so will work wonders on your mental well-being. Other things you can do to take your mind off the proceedings are meditation, exercising regularly, getting enough sleep, and making some time for fun and enjoyable activities.
Get an Exceptional Attorney
The attorney you choose to handle your marriage dissolution can determine if your marriage will be civil or not. It is best to inform your advocate you intend to act civilly with your proceeding early on.
An experienced attorney and one who cares will heed your request and speed up the process meaning your marriage termination case does not last for long.